10 Daily Steps to an Amazing Relationship

10 Daily Steps to an Amazing Relationship |
I have been with my fiancé for 5 1/2 years. Sure, we’ve gone through tough times together, but we wouldn’t change a thing. I’ve compiled a list of 10 daily steps to an amazing relationship:
  1. Say “I Love You” as much as you can {we say it probably a dozen or more times a day}
  2. Feel the butterflies {I will sometimes just look at him across the room and allow myself to be flooded by the feeling of love and gratitude – it gives me butterflies!}
  3. Ask how their day was {when we get home from work, we always talk about our day with each other}
  4. Eat together {dinner time is our time. We sit down at the table with no distractions and just talk}
  5. Split the chores, but help each other out {sure, we have chores that are specifically assigned to each person, but when one of us isn’t feeling well or busy doing something else, the other steps in. Oh and we don’t hold that against one other!}
  6. Cuddle when you wake up {after that alarm goes off, roll over and cuddle! It’s a great way to start the day}
  7. Cuddle when you go to sleep {same goes for ending the day}
  8. Laugh & be silly {we play with the puppy and laugh our heads off. Also, I’ll do ridiculous dances while cooking dinner and he joins in}
  9. Send them a text message during the day to let them know you’re thinking of them {sometimes it’s just the turd emoji :P}
  10. Talk it out {it’s true what they say: never go to bed angry. We ALWAYS talk it out when we disagree or get into a ‘fight’}
I could never have asked for a better man to spend the rest of my life with. We are so unbelievably in love, it’s crazy! 
Sorry for the mush. 
Practice these 10 daily steps to an amazing relationship! I hope this helps 🙂

How to be a Bitch

How to be a Bitch |
Umm.. really, Jess? You’re going to tell us how to be a bitch?
Yes and here’s why – I’m too nice. I say yes to everything, get walked all over and never stand up for myself. Or I should say I was too nice. 
I think that growing up and maturing gives you a different perspective on relationships and humans in general. I have always been wayyy too aware of other peoples’ feelings and put everyone else ahead of myself. This is not a good thing, especially when it comes to your professional life.
If I’ve learned anything over the past few years, it’s that you have to look out for yourself because no one else is going to. If something doesn’t seem right, stand up for yourself. 
Now, a few months ago, I took this to the extreme. I actually yelled at my boss and essentially told her she’s not doing her job and is a terrible boss. While everything I said was true, I really should have toned it back and had a civil discussion with her instead of going in throwing elbows.
You live, you learn, right?
Here are my tips on how to be a bitch:

Say no.

If you’re super busy and literally do not have time for an added task, say no. You’re only one person and can only do so much. There is absolutely no benefit to saying yes and then slacking on your other work. If need be, explain this! All you have to do is say “Listen, I would absolutely love to take on this assignment, but I’m really pressed for time with the other tasks on my to do list and I don’t want to let them slide”. Wordsmith, I know.. *takes a bow*

Don’t agree with everything.

Not only will this show that you can stand up for yourself, it also shows that you are a person who has his/her own opinions. If you can, suggest something that may work better. This shows initiative and that you have a vested interest in the project. I am super jealous of my sister-inlaw because she has mastered this skill – she honestly could be a lawyer.  

You don’t need to be friends with everyone.

This is the point I struggled with most. I really take it personally if someone doesn’t like me. But what I had to realize is that I don’t like every single person in the world, so why should every single person be required to like me? We all have different personalities; some of us will get along, some of us won’t. That’s life. 


Don’t talk about people behind their backs – say it to their face.

Oh, mama. This one is tough too. But, if you have a problem with someone, go to them and not your co-worker. There’s a 100% chance that someone has done something to piss you off in the past. Did you talk to them about it? Or did you go behind their back and talk about how they’re such a doo-doo head (yep..I just said that). It may have been a miscommunication – work it out. 

Let it go.

If someone says a mean or downright rude comment to you, let it go (sing it, Idina Menzel!). Maybe they were having a bad day. Maybe they’re just a terrible person. Who cares? If they are truly a rude person, karma will come around, so don’t let it faze you. Again, easier said than done, I am aware. Here’s what I do: I just look them right in the eye and don’t say anything. Or, if it’s on the phone, I just let them finish. They may just need to vent and you are the outlet. 90% of the time, they realize they were rude and they apologize. The stare down works LOL.
Hopefully these 5 tips will help you to be a bitch more assertive. Once you assert yourself, it is less likely that you will be walked all over. 
Are you an overly sensitive person? Do you have any tips on how to be a bitch? I’d love to hear them. 

I’ll Be Happy When…

I'll be Happy When | Stop Waiting and Create Your Own Happiness

I’ll be happy when… finish this sentence. How many times has that thought gone through your mind? I’m actually embarrassed to tell you. 
I’ve always said “life seems like a waiting game. You wait to finish high school, wait to finish college, wait to get a job, wait to get a promotion, wait to get married, wait to have kids, wait to retire”… you get the idea.
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The Happiness Audit: How to Be Happy

How To Be Happy | Conduct your happiness audit |

Over the past several weeks, I’ve really been focusing on my happiness. Am I happy? What could I do to be happier? Is there something in my life making me unhappy? These questions are important to ask yourself when conducting a happiness audit. Yes, I just made that term up (pretty sure, at least…).

This is the first step in living a happy life: The Happiness Audit.

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